Listening is something most of us likely do not consider to be a skill, but rather an innate characteristic of being a human being. I disagree, however, as I do, in fact, consider listening to be a skill, and I firmly believe it is a skill most of us could use some assistance with. I … More Listening: a how-to guide
I am a firm believer in recognizing someone’s efforts and a job well done when appropriate. Perhaps this stems from a history of working at jobs where hard work goes unnoticed, because I’ve endured a few (like most of us, but regardless of where the incentive comes from to applaud people when appropriate, it is … More Giving credit where credit is due
Venting, if you’re unfamiliar with the term, typically involves a person unloading their stresses, anguish or frustration with a given situation via conversation with someone. It is something probably all of us have engaged with at some point or another, and a lot of us associate the concept of venting with positivity; getting things off … More Venting: good or bad?
Confrontation is something I’m willing to best most of us would prefer to avoid. Addressing an issue face-to-face with someone isn’t necessarily the most pleasant thing to do, and while at times needed, most of us tend to shy away from confrontation whenever possible. That being said, there are times when confrontation simply cannot be … More The beauty of straightforward confrontation
Maintaining healthy, balanced friendships is a relatively tricky concept. If you disagree with me, consider yourself quite fortunate; for a majority of us, though, keeping up friendships isn’t always a walk in the park. Friendships, like relationships, require effort, time, commitment and sacrifice, and at times, staying on par with multiple friendships and friend groups … More The reality of friendships when you’re a young adult
Honesty is something that I value. I always have, and likely always will, and I do believe being honest is a character trait in life that really isn’t overly popular among us. There is a difference between being honest and being blunt or brash, though, and I believe this difference is worth noting. Honesty in … More Is honesty really the best policy?
Projecting is something that a lot of us partake in, whether willingly or unwillingly. For anyone unaware, projecting is when we force our thoughts and emotions onto those arounds us, therefore it can be negative and positive. For the sake of this post, though, when I say projecting, I’m referring to the negative form of … More Here’s why we need to stop projecting
Not too long ago a good friend of mine reached out to chat with me about a recent breakup she is going through. I was touched she thought of me to lean on and potentially offer her some advice pertaining to the situation, although once she got into the nitty gritty details of how her … More Here’s why knowing ourselves is so, so important
Having a toxic influence in your life, in any form, can be gruelling. Even worse is when the toxicity comes in the form of a person, and further, when that person happens to be your family. It is certainly easier to cut ties with toxic people who aren’t your own kin, and the prospect of … More Here’s how to deal with a toxic family member
I think it is safe to say that honesty is a rather important aspect of any serious relationship. Without honesty, trust cannot build, not really exist whatsoever, and without either of these things, a relationship certainly wouldn’t be a healthy one. In fact, there may not be a relationship at all. In addition to being … More The importance of utmost transparency in serious relationships
I’m not one to really incorporate religious themes and elements into my blog posts, but for this particular topic, I think it would be appropriate to cite The Serenity Prayer, which I am sure a lot of us are familiar with: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to … More The power of acceptance
Conflict is an inevitable occurrence in life. It can happen both expectedly and unexpectedly, but regardless of the ways in which it presents itself, it is crucial to have a firm understanding of how to approach it in the most effective manner possible. We all handle conflict and confrontation differently, therefore it makes sense that … More The importance of knowing how to best approach conflict
Chances are that we have all, at one point or another, heard the expression ‘don’t make time for people who can’t make time for you.’ It’s a well-known saying, and really, it should be, as its message is a powerful and significant one to know and remember. While most of us are familiar with this … More Stop making time for people who can’t make time for you
Assertiveness is, in my opinion, a topic with a lot of baggage attached. For whatever reason, many of us are hesitant towards assertiveness, based on my own observations and experiences, and quite honestly, I’m not exactly sure where this hesitation comes from. Perhaps some of us shy away from assertiveness because it has a negative … More Understanding the art of assertiveness
The idea of knowing when to say no is one we arguably all should be familiar with. It’s a great mantra to practice as it is a means to lower the possibility of ourselves being taken advantage of, yet despite its importance, I think it’s safe to say that many of us could improve in … More The importance of knowing when to say no
I think it is safe to say that time seems to be a concept that is dwindling in its nature the older we get. I’ve certainly noticed how time seems to slip by faster than it did when I was younger, and I think a quickening in the pace at which time passes is a … More Here’s why it’s important to make time for the people who matter
Honesty, as we are all aware, is a crucial component in any romantic relationship. There are a few other musts that typically preside in a relationship, for example, trust, kindness, patience, etc. But, personally, I believe many other important traits in a relationship stem from one pivotal one; honesty. Honesty is similar to transparency in … More Here’s why it is so important to be transparent in relationships
Spending time with my parents is quite honestly one of my favourite things to do. I’ve always enjoyed being in their company, but I feel as though my appreciation for the time I spend in their company has only grown as I’ve gotten older, believe it or not. A lot of people are taken aback … More Spending time with parents as a young adult
A few evenings ago, my mom and dad had some friends over for dinner. My sister and I joined them as we enjoy conversing with many of our parents friends, and sure enough, the evening was filled with great conversation and laughter. We were chatting about a variety of things, but we eventually got into … More How well do you think you know someone?
Relationships are something a majority of us are affiliated with. Because there are so many forms of relationships, for example, romantic, familial, and friendship (to name a few), we don’t always dedicate a tremendous level of consciousness to the fact that relationships, in all forms, are subjective and personal. Everyone experiences relationships differently, and ultimately, … More Why do we make other people’s relationships our business?
Confrontation is arguably something we should all have some sort of familiarity with. Whether you’ve had to confront someone over something or someone has confronted you, it’s a concept that has significant relevance for a lot of us. Considering how prominent confrontation is for so many of us, I find it interesting that it is … More Keeping calm with confrontation
Friendship is a concept I sincerely hope all of us have been privy enough to experience at some point in our lives. It is a wonderful thing to be great friends with people who are important to us, and even more gratifying is having friendships that have been in existence for an extended period of … More Figuring out failed friendships
Miscommunication is something that has likely impacted all of us at some point in our lives. It’s relatively easy to unintentionally obscure a clear message while communicating, however the effects of this obscurity can have consequential outcomes, depending on the context of the situation. Misconstrued communication can result in problems in our romantic relationships, familial … More How to be a better communicator
It is disheartening to acknowledge that, as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic, mental health and wellness, for many of us, has taken a beating. Perhaps you have been struggling with a condition that has been intensified as of late; maybe you’re experiencing the onset of a type of mental illness because of the pandemic … More The importance of mental health check-ins
I firmly believe that jealousy in an inevitable concept in a majority of relationships. When you are in love with a person, it is normal to feel threatened or insecure when you believe someone else is trying to earn their attention. What isn’t so normal, however, is when healthy jealousy turns into toxic jealousy and … More Healthy jealousy vs. toxic jealousy in relationships
The sensation of feeling as though we are inferior to someone or something in any given context isn’t a nice one. Yet, despite the shitiness of feeling undervalued, I would argue it’s somewhat inevitable among many of us at some point in our lives. Rather than discuss how much it sucks to be made to … More How to grapple with feeling insignificant
Not too long ago, my sister and I, being a little bored with limited entertaining options in the wake of the COVID-19 outbreak, thought we would play a game together. We googled some games to play with two people and came across a series of pretty deep questions to ask each other, and I have … More Get to know yourself better with these questions
The idea of giving someone criticism isn’t exactly something that brings most of us comfort. At least, I would hope it doesn’t. Being critical of someone can be kind of awkward, and, depending on who the person is that you’re criticizing, it can be a little tense, too. But, constructive criticism is something all of … More Giving constructive criticism: a how-to guide
There is a belief that suggests bartenders are some of the best free counselors in existence, and since becoming a bartender at my current job, I can say with complete certainty that I support this belief. I’ve been bartending for a couple of months now, and it is somewhat mind-blowing to consider the amount of … More Making the most of everyday life
I would argue that just about every couple on planet earth has found themselves face-to-face with the age-old dilemma of their partner hogging the blankets. Maybe it happens seldom, or perhaps it’s a daily occurrence, but either way, waking up shivering only to discover all of the blankets are cocooned around your partner is a … More Tired of fighting for the blankets with your partner? This bed could be the answer