I would wager that pretty well all of us, at one point or another, have sent a text message or an email to someone that we perceived to be pleasant and polite, only for the recipient to interpret the message in an entirely alternate manner and take offence to what was sent. It’s certainly happened to me, in both regards, and it’s not the nicest thing to have to backtrack and explain to someone that how they read your message was not at all how you figured it would be read.
We live in a worldly state that enables us to access and engage with various of modes of communication around the clock. Despite the abundance of communication channels available, though, most of, if not all of us, tend to gravitate towards electronic communication as opposed to in-person, especially when it comes to confrontation.
This really isn’t the best way to go about addressing and resolving a problem with someone, because as I mentioned already, it is far too easy to misconstrue wording when the person the wording is coming from isn’t present to clarify or defend themselves.
I find it mind-blowing to consider how many of us have had poor experiences with electronic confrontation yet we continue to rely on this communicative method to dissect an issue with someone despite the implications that can come from it. It may seem like the easier path to take if the issue at hand isn’t the nicest to discuss, but if we’re being realistic, confronting someone about something from behind a keyboard and a screen is disingenuous, and a bit cowardly, really.
If you’ve got beef with someone, allow me to recommend talking to them about it face-to-face. It might save yourself, and others, a lot of grief in the long run.