I recently had a conversation with a good friend that inspired today’s post. I won’t go into detail regarding what our conversation was about to protect the privacy of my friend, but in essence, we were chatting about how jarring the truth can be when it is something we have forcibly denied for an extended period of time. I realize that is a rather vague assertion, but hopefully you’re able to interpret where I’m going with this topic.
I think all of us, at some point or another, have experienced this. Things we believed to be true for a very long time, especially when it is specific to a person, become normal. When our own constructed ‘truth’ towards something or someone is suddenly uprooted, it can be an absolutely chaotic experience.
Say, as an example, you have lived your life under the impression that a friend of yours is nothing but good. They’ve always been present for you when you required their support or reassurance; they’re incredibly kind and generous; they’re fun and always put you in a good mood. One day, you discover that this friend is, in actuality, none of the things you believed them to be, and your world seems to come crashing down around and upon you. You can’t believe it, but you also can’t deny it, assuming you’ve been given proof to sway your judgment, and you’re now questioning everything you once deemed to be true and good.
I’m not here to tell you that there is a guaranteed fix to remedy these sorts of situations when they arise. Some things in life are simply hard and unfair without us understanding the reasoning behind them. But I am here to tell you that with time, these sorts of instances become easier to stomach, and you’re not alone in this occurrence.
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