There are a few things that come to mind when I contemplate my own personal pet peeves. People who drive under the speed limit are a major one, as is arrogance or cockiness, entitlement, and when people make your business theirs.
I have never in my life been able to comprehend why it is that so many of us make other people’s business our own. It’s domineering, unnecessary, an infringement of privacy, and further, it’s just fucking unwarranted.
When we meddle in other people’s business for absolutely no apparent reason, what exactly is it that we are hoping to accomplish? In reality, making another person’s business our own is a rather sure way to piss them off, so unless you’re looking to create conflict, I’m really not sure what the expected outcome is.
With the exception that someone asks for your opinion on a matter, I suspect it is always best to remain silent. When we force ourselves onto matters that have zero relevance to us and provide an opinion or feedback, it genuinely comes across as over-bearing and controlling, two things no one should strive to be. Perhaps that’s why this matter perturbs me as severely as it does; in a way, making other people’s business our own is a form of entitlement as we believe it to be our right to offer a stance on a matter that doesn’t involve us in any way, shape or form.
I once saw a quote that read something along the lines of ‘it doesn’t matter what others are doing; it matters what you are doing,’ and I think this saying embodies what I’m attempting to encapsulate in this post. If it doesn’t concern you, and you haven’t been asked, keep your mouth shut, and odds are life will be a hell of a lot smoother and far less problematic.
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