This past weekend, Blaine and I were finally able to get together with great friends of ours. We have made several attempts to formulate a plan and therefore execute said plan to hang out prior to this past weekend, but for a variety of different reasons, we had to keep postponing.
Over dinner, we were chatting about how damn hard it is to socialize with friends once we become adults as opposed to when we were kids or teenagers. This couple has a son who will be turning two soon, and they both work full-time jobs. Blaine and I don’t have a child, but we still find ourselves busy enough with our work and other responsibilities, much the same as arguably every adult on planet Earth.
It had been a rather significant period of time since we last saw this couple we met up with on the weekend, but once we were reunited, it felt like we picked up right where we left off, which I have always considered an indication of a strong, genuine friendship. Getting together with them reminded me to consider that the friends Blaine and I have are the same way in the sense we could go years without seeing each other, but when we do, it feels as though no time has passed, and I can’t help but wonder is this is a relatively necessary characteristic in adult friendships.
Life is busy, and I am inclined to believe we find ourselves busier and busier. These days, when it comes to a romantic couple, I think it is more common than not for both members of the couple to be working as opposed to just one, meaning there are a lot of other folks alongside Blaine, myself and this couple in the busy boat. When it comes to maintaining healthy friendships in adulthood, you almost have to assume you won’t be seeing each other as often as you might like. But, that doesn’t automatically coincide with a deterioration of the friendship if it’s a real one.
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