I like to think of myself as a relatively pleasant person, although I will happily admit that this varies depending on the day. I try my best to be kind to others whenever possible, and as wonderful as being friendly is, it definitely has its downsides.
I can’t help but suspect that people who are normally always kind tend to get taken advantage of, and it is an unfortunate suspicion. I find it rather sad that being cordial, for some, is an invitation to be walked all over, and I simultaneously find it true considering it has happened to me a handful of times.
You’re almost always better off being kind, but there are instances in which being kind can be detrimental. Say, for example, you have a friend who reaches out asking for a favour. Seeing as they’re a friend, you agree to help without hesitation. Perhaps a few weeks go by, and this same friend comes calling for another favour. You, again, help them out without question, assuming that they would do the same for you in opposite roles. Now, you find yourself in a predicament in which you could use some assistance, so you reach out to the same friend you have been consistently helping. Now that you’re the one needing a hand, they can’t seem to find any time to return the favours you’ve graciously given to them, and you realize that they took advantage of your willingness to help and your kindness.
If you, like me, have been in this situation, you can arguably attest to how shitty it is. We like to think that what we do for others would also be done for us, but, sadly, in this world, this rarely seems to be the case anymore.
Be kind, always. But, also know when to draw the line and say no.
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