I would wager that just about all of us, at one point or another, have fallen victim to the social construct of putting on a face or presenting a specific image that isn’t our own in order to appease others. It’s a sad and simultaneously harsh reality, but a reality nonetheless; we are obsessed with the opinions of others and how others view us, and when we are suspicious that someone may not be our biggest fan, it makes us uncomfortable.
We could absolutely live our lives in accordance with the expectations and standards created for us by others. And, we could do so and be absolutely fucking miserable in the process of obscuring our true identities to please others. But, allow me to inform you that this really is not something any of us need to do, nor should do. We’re born unique for a reason, and our iniquity is not meant to be dimmed or diminished by what others decide on our behalf.
It’s fact that you cannot please everybody, and it’s further fact that no matter how hard you try, you cannot force everyone to like you. You could bend over backwards in an attempt to be a version of yourself you’re not, only to have someone expect you to do a backflip. Do you get my point?
What others think of us is, essentially, none of our damn business. How others perceive us and interpret us may seem significant, but in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t. What is significant is how we live our lives and conduct ourselves as human beings, and the only way to do this is to figure out who we are as people and go from there.
Let go of the opinions and scrutinies of others. If someone has made up their mind about you without getting to know you, consider it their loss. Not yours.