My husband and I have been together for almost 12 years, and next June, we will celebrate our fourth wedding anniversary. I met Blaine when I was 19, hence why we have been together for as long as we have, and since we were young and weren’t in any rush to get married, we dated for many years. I like to think I know the guy like the back of my own hand, and, for the most part, I do. He does still manage to surprise me here and there, though, which I appreciate.
Anyone who knows Blaine personally can attest to the fact that he is a simple, quiet lad. The quiet aspect ceases to exist when he is around me, and sometimes, I genuinely do have to request that he shut up temporarily so I can concentrate on getting something done. Understandably, people don’t believe me when I tell them this.
I’ve come to realize just how important clear and healthy communication is in a romantic relationship, and, really, any sort of relationship, for that matter. In a romantic relationship, specifically, though, communication can make or break someone, and as wonderful as it would be if Blaine could read my mind, like I sometimes figure he can, I can’t realistically expect him to know what I am thinking, feeling, or wanting, and this is when communication comes into play.
Instead of harbouring anger at a partner for something they’re doing, or not doing, it’s arguably best to confront them and tell them what they’re doing is upsetting you. It might seem tempting to remain closed off and expect your partner to pick up on what’s bothering you, but this tactic often backfires and results in a bigger argument. If Blaine is upsetting me, I let him know, and vice versa. We have avoided many arguments with this clear approach to communication, even if it is a little uncomfortable at times.
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