I would bet money that a majority of social media users have, at some point, come across an article in their Facebook or Twitter newsfeed claiming to list 10 things that indicate your partner is cheating on you, or perhaps 10 signs your relationship is heading in the wrong direction. They’re tempting to read, and I’ll admit that I have looked at them before, but they really are a poor source of information regarding most relationships.
The thing about relationships is that they’re incredibly subjective. What one couple may believe to be an absolute deal-breaker could be something another couple views as a mere obstacle, and what one couple may perceive as progress could be another couple’s idea of recession. Relationships are some of the most unique and diverse things in existence, hence why one person’s opinion of what makes a good or bad relationship is, in the grand scheme of things, rather illogical.
There are elements of relationships that most people would unanimously agree to be either positive or negative, but the middle ground, depending on the situation, is typically quite broad. This is what makes it difficult to determine a unfiform criteria for couples’ to abide by in their relationships, and when you think about these differences from a subjective perspective, it becomes apparent why these relationship advice opinion pieces really are useless.
For example, I personally believe breaks in relationships can cause more harm than good. At the same time, I know couples who have taken breaks from their partners, only to reunite later on and have a better, stronger relationship than ever before. Why should my opinion on the matter dictate what others should, or should not believe?
In the end, your relationship is between yourself and your partner. It is up to the two of you to determine what works and what doesn’t.
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