Ahhh, resentment. It’s a fickle thing, and furthermore, a concept that has relevance to the vast majority of us. Resentment tends to coincide with grudges, especially if said resentment has deepened in intensity over a period of time, and neither tends to be terribly affluent in regard to what they present to the person possessing either.
Grudges may not benefit us in any way, shape or form, but they’re still rather popular, and they certainly offer allure; grudges are far easier to succumb to than they are to avoid, hence why many of us tend to fall into their trap.
I’ve held grudges myself, and I can attest to their lack of effectiveness. In essence, grudges serve as an opportunity to withhold from reconciliation, and avoiding making peace with someone or something is not what we should strive to do, in my own opinion. Grudges are also a wonderful way to develop some serious feelings of anger and bitterness with no end in sight; really, they’re nothing more than holding out on a conversation that seriously needs to be had, and an emotional, toxic cesspool at best.
This might ruffle some feathers, but grudges are a strong example of emotional immaturity. When someone actively chooses to hold a grudge as opposed to trying to fix or mend whatever it is that requires attention, they’re making the choice to overlook emotional maturity and instead dabble in the more childish option. Reconciliation can be really hard, and it definitely takes more effort, time and maturity than shutting someone out and holding a grudge does, which is why it is the more mature choice to make in this particular equation.
I never said math was easy.
Do yourself a favour and avoid holding a grudge or grudges – they don’t benefit anyone, and they certainly don’t affect the outcome of the original situation that prompted the need to form a grudge in the first place.
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