How to stand up for yourself (respectfully)

Being pushed around sucks.

One might think that this typically happens during our childhood years, during which it is commonly referred to as bullying.

Spoiler: it still happens when we’re adults, and it’s still called bullying.

Standing up for oneself is such an important thing to do in warranted situations, but sometimes, depending on the situation, it can be pretty tricky to do so.

For example, say you feel as though your boss is bullying you, or pushing you around. You would like to unleash your inner beast on them, but there’s a chance you could lose your job in the process.

So, what do you do?

Well, as tempting as it may seem, don’t unleash the inner beast. Not right away, anyways.

Your best bet is to take a step back and analyze your options for the situation. You can either ignore it and try to move along without it dragging you down, but this doesn’t always work. You could call your boss out aggressively and make your point loud and clear, but you run the risk of working yourself up and letting your emotions get the best of you, possibly causing you to forget key points in the argument you had planned out.

Sitting down with your boss, or whoever it is that’s pushing you around, in a calm, professional manner might be your solution.

Try writing down everything that’s on your mind beforehand and bringing it with you into the meeting as a reference. You might feel stupid, but having something to look at that will help you remember your key points can make a huge difference.

Also, try your best to keep your emotions out of it. You probably feel like crying or having a fully fledged raging session, but it probably won’t go over so well. Stick to the facts, stay calm, and be polite. Simply speak your mind in a respectful way and hope you earn the same respect in return.

If that doesn’t work, try approaching a superior in the company. If that still doesn’t get you any results, consider your own mental health and whether or not your job is worth the crap you’re dealing with.

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