My older sister and I had a great chat a couple of nights ago when I got home late from work.
I think it is important to mention that my big sister is, literally, my best friend, and I really don’t know what my life would consist of without her presence.
If you’re curious as to why I say my love for my sister is worth noting, it’s because the topic of this post is inspired by her. She isn’t the greatest at socializing, and never has been. Hence our conversation about it.
She and I have very different personalities. I’m far more outgoing than she is, and further, I very much so abide by a ‘I don’t give a shit what people think about me’ mentality, whereas she, in no way, shape or form, does not.
Our conversation prompted me to contemplate some suggestions I may offer for those of us who struggle socially. By no means am I a socialization expert, but I’ve learned a thing or two over the years working in customer service, so I thought I would offer some things that work for me to all of you.
- Maintain eye contact with someone when conversing with them. This may seem like a daunting task for anyone shy or reserved, but this tactic works wonders when it comes to communication.
- If you’re interacting with a group of people, be sure to make eye contact with all persons present. Maintaining focus on one person in particular is a good way to make everyone else feel excluded.
- Keep things light and casual. Try not to overthink or dwell on what you said or should or shouldn’t have said; rather, be yourself (easier said than done, I know), and allow your natural personality to be conveyed to avoid coming off as stiff or cold.
- Be mindful of your body language. Avoid crossing your arms or looking down as these habits can be interpreted by others negatively.
- Remind yourself that you’re human and you’re allowed to make mistakes, fumble words, etc. So many of us are too aware of what we are doing and saying when interacting with people, and this can be a huge hindrance.
Here’s hoping some of these tips can help you.