The more mature and experienced we become in all aspects of life, the more we encounter people with different personality characteristics. This is both a good thing and a bad thing. It’s good in the sense we’re exposed to a variety of people that come from different walks of life, and hopefully, our minds can be broadened and influenced to be more open in meeting these people. It’s bad in the sense that with meeting new people occasionally comes meeting complete jerks, often times these jerks possessing aggressive personalities.
Having dealt with my fair share of aggressive personalities in a variety of contexts, I feel confident that I have come to a concrete understanding of how to go about dealing with these people. Are all aggressive personalities the same? Heck no. But chances are that people we meet with aggressive personalities can be dealt with using certain techniques and approaches, and hopefully, my way of dealing with them can be of help to someone else.
As tempting as it may be to simply hoof these people in the mouth and walk away, it’s not always so simple, nor is this necessarily the best way to deal with them. Say you work with someone with an aggressive personality at work. No matter what you do or say, they have criticism to offer (and it isn’t constructive), and by the end of the day, you feel like you’ve been trampled by a stampede of rhinos. It can be tempting to suppress your feelings of frustration and simply continue on without voicing your annoyance, but trust me, this isn’t an effective way to deal with the issue. Speak to someone about what you’re feeling and get a second opinion. Voice your concerns to your boss or someone else in a position of power, and finally, stand up to the nitwit. Terrifying? Perhaps. Effective? Absolutely. Often times these people continue to bully because no one has stood up to them, and in doing so you may demonstrate to them that you’re not someone to be pushed around. This strategy could backfire, but it could also be your saving grace.
Don’t be afraid to stick up for yourself. It may be the best thing you can do.
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