When it comes to relationships of any sort, the aspect of investing and reciprocating effort is a vital one. It is difficult for a relationship to bloom and grow when effort is only being exerted from one half of the two people involved, and eventually, efforts are eradicated as a result of frustration.
I am a firm believer in giving second chances. Some people disagree with this mentality, but personally, I don’t necessarily believe that one mistake, flaw or error should be an absolute deal-breaker, depending on the severity of the issue. But, if second chances turn into third and fourth ones, it is likely that the person you’re granting another opportunity to doesn’t really give a shit about you and will continue to upset you, whether they be a family member, friend, or romantic partner.
I’ve come to a point in my life where I can truly acknowledge the importance of knowing when to walk away and move on in the context of relationships, specifically friendships. When you try over and over to nurture and support a friendship without receiving anything in return, it becomes debilitating, exhausting, and quite honestly sad. It is difficult to recognize when efforts are being wasted on a person and make the tough decision to wipe our hands from that relationship, but occasionally, it is required for our own happiness and mental health.
I’m not someone who gives up on something easily, but it truly is so important to know when to say when. An endless attempt to improve a relationship without receiving anything in return is, ultimately, a toxic one, and if you know your worth is being overlooked, it is likely that ties need to be severed. It’s unpleasant, emotional and trying, but it is also sometimes one of the best things we can do for ourselves.
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