While a saddening realization, I would wager that just about each and every one of us could think of someone when asked if we know someone who fails to be treated how they should. Unfortunately, women tend to fit this description more often than men do. Furthermore, this sort of poor treatment most often occurs in a relationship. Still, it can occur elsewhere, for example, between family members or even within a work-based relationship with a co-worker.
Typically, individuals who put up with poor treatment and other shit they shouldn’t likely do so because they don’t know, or see, their worth. They convince themselves they’re somehow deserving of this abuse, in whatever form it is presenting itself in, making it extremely difficult for someone in this situation to acknowledge that they are, in fact, being treated badly, and therefore remove themselves from the situation or relationship.
Knowing and recognizing our own worth is by far one of the most powerful tools we can yield in this world. A lack of confidence is an issue that plagues people from all walks of life, and oftentimes, people who deeply struggle with insecurities often appear very confident in how they present themselves. It’s a bit of a paradox; in grappling with self-esteem issues, some of us give the impression we are the complete opposite as a sort of coping mechanism.
You know yourself better than anyone else, and in turn, you know your own worth. You know what you are capable of and what you’re not, your strengths, weaknesses, etc. If you are like me and are conscious of the fact you deserve love and kindness but convince yourself otherwise, but you still consider yourself a relatively confident person, it is possible you’re dabbling in what I like to call imposter syndrome – you know you deserve better, but tolerate bullshit anyways, within reason.
Know your worth and be yourself, unapologetically.
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