Not too long ago a good friend of mine reached out to chat with me about a recent breakup she is going through. I was touched she thought of me to lean on and potentially offer her some advice pertaining to the situation, although once she got into the nitty gritty details of how her breakup unfolded, let’s just say I was really angry with how this guy left her feeling.
Granted, this gal is my good friend, so I’m naturally a little bit biased when analyzing the situation she explained to me. To put it plainly, her former boyfriend essentially manipulated her to such a severe extent she ended up completely altering her own opinion of herself and believed herself to be a bad person because of his influence.
I was very happy she reached out to me, because I think our chat allowed her to recognize how in the wrong her ex is and remains to be for convincing her that she is someone she isn’t. Their breakup left her believing she is selfish and a shitty person, both characteristics being so far off from who she really is it’s astounding.
My conversation with my friend left me pondering the importance of knowing ourselves. It is so easy to allow someone, especially someone we love, trust and choose to be vulnerable with, to fuck with our sense of self-identity and be swayed to believe we are someone, or something, we aren’t, never have been, and never will be. It can be devastating to allow someone to come into our lives and essentially totally blindside us with manipulations and lies, hence the significance of being grounded and knowing, fully and undoubtedly, who we are.
There is no one else in the world like you. Be yourself, unapologetically, and take no shit.