I know I am a people pleaser, and it’s a realization I’ve carried with me for the past few years now. For the longest time, I genuinely did not understand that the way in which I was conducting daily life was in a manner that best suited those around me as opposed to myself, and … More Establishing boundaries: not as mean as you might think
Empathy is a concept that, nowadays, is hard to come by. For anyone unfamiliar with the term empathy and what exactly the concept is, it is, in my own words, the ability to read someone’s mood and/or emotions and be mindful of both when engaging with them. Put simply, it is the ability to ‘feel’ … More The power of empathy
While a saddening realization, I would wager that just about each and every one of us could think of someone when asked if we know someone who fails to be treated how they should. Unfortunately, women tend to fit this description more often than men do. Furthermore, this sort of poor treatment most often occurs … More Know your worth
I came across a Reel via Instagram recently that got me thinking. It depicted a young man, probably around my age, who was discussing the concept of people-pleasing, and he drew an interesting parallel between the concept itself and parenting – he explained how, in most cases, people who consider themselves people-pleasers in their adult … More People-pleasing and parent-pleasing: a tricky union
It is probably safe to assume that every single one of us, at one point or another, will encounter conflict of some sort. Perhaps you yourself are the cause of said conflict, or perhaps you’re at the receiving end of it; either way, conflict, while typically unpleasant, is almost inevitable throughout life, and it is … More It isn’t too late to make amends
I would wager that there a lot of people out there, roaming around, doing their own thing, that have absolutely zero comprehension of what the word ‘sorry’ signifies. We know that sorry is the appropriate thing to say when we wrong someone, and furthermore, that it serves as a form of apology, but aside from … More When sorry isn’t enough
Ahhh, resentment. It’s a fickle thing, and furthermore, a concept that has relevance to the vast majority of us. Resentment tends to coincide with grudges, especially if said resentment has deepened in intensity over a period of time, and neither tends to be terribly affluent in regard to what they present to the person possessing … More Do yourself a favour and stop holding grudges
When I sat down to write today’s post, I probably stared at my blinking cursor on a blank slate of a page for 20 minutes, at least. I asked Blaine for inspiration, but as he wasn’t overly helpful, I decided to hit up Google and see what sort of inspiration I could curate. One of … More No, you’re not behind on your life path
I have to begin this post by acknowledging my dad – this one is for him, and any other dads out there who raised their daughters to be firm and stand their ground. If my previous sentence didn’t give it away, I consider myself a strong woman. By strong, I mean physically, to an extent; … More Understanding strong, assertive women
Well folks, we have made it to the third and final installment in my mini-series regarding all things crystals. I thank you for coming along on this ride with me, and further, for your patience; to be honest, I could arguably dedicate 40 posts to the topic of crystals, but to refrain from boring anyone, … More A beginners guide to crystals (part three)
I’ve been working alongside my Dad on our family farm for a few years now. I’ve always worked with him/for him, but in the last five years or so, I’ve become more involved with the operation, and in doing so, I’ve found myself spending a lot more time with him. I love my dad something … More Dislike versus misunderstanding: a fickle concept
I won’t gatekeep the three remaining love languages from you today, as I said in yesterday’s post that today’s would list the other three languages of love. I will, however, make you wait a little longer, or, rather, I ask that you don’t skip ahead just to get to the goods. Prior to learning about … More Do you know your love language? (part two)
If you’re familiar with the five different types of love languages, you’re probably familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman, the man responsible for formulating the love languages in his well-known book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. I first heard about Mr. Chapman’s work through a friend of mine who recommended his … More What’s your love language?
This past weekend, I had my mom, dad and sister come over for dinner at mine and Blaine’s home for Father’s Day. I’ve been slacking in the hosting department in the context of having my immediate family over to our home for some meals, so I figured Father’s Day would be a fitting opportunity. I … More Hosting a dinner? Make this
As much as I try my hardest to live a life that doesn’t allow the opinions of others to bother me, I’m human, and therefore fuck up every now and then. Not just with living this mentality, but with just about everything. Ain’t nobody perfect, despite how many people try to give this impression. I … More Disassociating with the opinions of others
I firmly believe there is a hell of a lot of us in existence that doubt the power of a positive attitude or mindset. I cannot say for certain what the reasoning behind this is, aside from, perhaps, a lack of faith regarding our positivity and manifestations and what they can conquer. But, the right … More Attitude really is everything
The month of May is a busy one for me and my family. Not only do we start planting some of our crops on our farm in May (some are planted earlier), but we also celebrate Mother’s Day, Blaine’s birthday, my birthday, our nephew’s birthday, and Blaine’s Dad’s birthday. My birthday and Blaine’s are four … More Read this to learn how to make homemade Dairy Queen ice cream cake
This past Thursday, Blaine and I celebrated his 29th birthday. He isn’t exactly the type to willingly engage in celebratory birthday activities, so our festivities were pretty low-key, just as he prefers. Blaine has a sweet tooth but can be picky with his desserts. He is an avid fan of his grandmother’s chocolate pie, and … More Read this to learn how to make homemade chocolate pie
In case you’re unaware, this coming Sunday is Mother’s Day. I imagine there are still a few folks out there scrambling to come up with some gift ideas for their mom, so I thought I would compile a list of some gift ideas to potentially help anyone out. Also, just as some useful advice for … More Read this for some Mother’s Day inspiration
Occasionally, I get the impression that being a good listener is a skill that is harder and harder to come by. I have my own speculations about the reasoning behind this lack of attentiveness in the context of listening, but I do believe social media and technology have been significant perpetrators. Considering how much time … More How well do you listen?
A couple of days ago, my mom, sister and I found ourselves engaged in a rather intense conversation regarding how some folks tend to get a wee bit violent toward inanimate objects when they’re extremely angry. My mom and I have this in common, as much as I hate to admit it, while my sister, … More Understanding violent rage toward inanimate objects: a how-to guide
While I sadly cannot recall where exactly I read it, I often think about a quote I came across a while ago from someone commenting on the millennial generation as a whole. The message was implying that millennials, collectively, are a generation of people built on the foundation of pleasing others before themselves because of … More People pleasing: know when to quit
I wrote a post a couple of days ago discussing a newly released television series titled Beef. When I was researching the show to determine the names of the actors and actresses that portray the show’s characters, I skimmed through some reviews, and one caught my attention as a result of its wording. As I … More Why have we become so reactive?
Rather than bombarding you with a slew of different ways to handle someone who is narcissistic, I thought it might be more beneficial to break this topic up into two separate posts. I figure the topic of narcissism is heavy enough, let alone when a post resembles the closet in Narnia and just keeps going … More More tips for dealing with a narcissist
While an unfortunate reality, I would wager that more of us than not have dealt with a narcissist, or narcissists, and on more than one occasion. Anyone who has familiarity or experience with a narcissist will arguably attest to the fact that they’re vile specimens, and despite how absolutely fucking awful they are, there are … More Tips for dealing with a narcissist
Perhaps I am isolated in this opinion, but I have always felt as though the concept of setting boundaries for oneself is often perceived as a negative thing. I speculate that a lot of us, when we hear the phrase ‘setting boundaries,’ cringe internally, or even have a mental flinch, if you will, regardless of … More The importance of establishing boundaries
The source of inspiration behind this post may be questionable in its origin, but hear me out. I think what I am wanting to communicate has validity to it, so long as I can successfully articulate what exactly it is I’m trying to say. As I mentioned in a post a while back, Blaine got … More The power of unity
I’m not exactly sure if the term ‘life timeline’ is the best way to encapsulate what I’m referring to, but hear me out. I haven’t heard another term for it as of yet, so we will tentatively stick with ‘life timeline’ for now. When I say life timeline, I’m making reference to how one’s life … More Stop comparing your life timeline to others
This past weekend, my mom, sister and me took a much-needed afternoon to get away from the farm for a little while. Anyone who comes from a farm background will know precisely what I mean in my previous statement, and for anyone unfamiliar with agriculture and farming families, I’ll briefly explain; because most family farms … More You never know who you might be talking to
To answer my own question, for Blaine and me, it was a busy holiday season this year. We went to my grandmother’s house with my aunt and cousins, my parents and my sister on Christmas Eve; on Christmas Day Blaine and I went to my parents to open gifts with my sister and we had … More How was your Christmas?
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