My sister recently shared an article with me regarding an incident in which a woman was body shamed for being curvacious and being married to a male with a six-pack.
This incident impacted Jenna Kutcher, a body-positive blogger, and occurred after she shared a photo of her and her husband on a beach via Instagram. She and her husband, Drew, are featured walking on a beach in bathing suits sharing a kiss, and she captioned the post with a description of what someone messaged her through Instagram regarding the photo. Someone sent her a message stating they “couldn’t believe [she] managed to land a guy as good-looking” as her husband, simply because of her own body.
In the same caption Jenna stated:
“Part of my insecurity with my body has stemmed around being married to Mr. 6-Pack himself,” she wrote. “Why should I, a curvy girl get him? I feel unworthy and when I write narratives in my head that because I am not thin, I don’t deserve him. This man has embraced every curve, every dimple, pound and pimple for the last ten years and has always me reminded me that I’m beautiful even when my inner dialogue doesn’t match. So yes, my thighs kiss, my arms are big, and my bum is bumpy but there is just more of me for him to love and I chose the man that could handle alllll that (and so much more!).”
First of all, I think Jenna’s words are incredibly powerful, impactful, meaningful, and further demonstrate the genuine love she and her husband have for each other.
Secondly, I am angered that Jenna had to acknowledge such a cruel comment in the first place. I commend her for handling the negativity so professionally and well, however, it disgusts me that individuals are under the impression that they have the right to dictate who someone should be with based on their appearance.
What gives anyone the right to imply that someone fails to be deserving of the love of another because of their physicality? It’s 2018, and while this behavior is becoming less and less tolerated, society inevitable has a long way to go in terms of abolishing this sort of behavior entirely.
I immensely credit Jenna and her husband, and at the end of the day, their marriage is just that – theirs. No one else’s.
Just be kind.
Photo by https://www.msn.com/en-ca/health/wellness/curvy-blogger-reveals-she-was-body-shamed-for-being-married-to-mr-6-pack/ar-BBKuEL8?li=AAggFp5&ocid=mailsignout