“There are some things in life you simply cannot change.”
This phrase, and affiliated variations, is something I remind myself of when I am feeling particularly stressed or my anxiety is getting the best of me.
I am the type of person who prefers control over spontaneity. Do I perceive this trait as negative? Not necessarily, but I acknowledge that it has the potential to generate problems, depending on the situation. I enjoy having a sense of confidence regarding something I am engaging with, and while randomness is sometimes the best option, it often catches me off guard and induces frustration.
This characteristic of mine can, therefore, be a bit of a nuisance when it comes down to things beyond my control. I try my best to somehow manipulate the situation in an attempt to transform it into something I can influence, but sometimes, efforts are wasted. This leaves me irritated and stressed, sparking an indefinite turmoil of anxiety and unease.
As terrifying it is, letting go in these sorts of situations is necessary. Yes, I realize I say this rather nonchalantly, as if letting go of something is a stroll through the meadow.
We all know this is bull.
Anywho, this really is the only solution to getting through things we cannot change. Speaking from my own experiences, the longer I hold on to my frustrations about my inability to force chance, the greater my anger and anxiety become. Abolishing them from my mind forced me to accept peace about it and continue onwards.
By changing my perspective towards the things I can’t change, I have learned how to deal with my emotions in these situations accordingly. Stubborn acceptance is challenging, but it can make a world of difference. It won’t come naturally, but effort and persistence will be your best friends.
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