Relationships as a concept are a highly subjective one. No two relationships look the same considering no two people are exactly the same, so approaching a relationship with an objective mindset isn’t going to work out well.
While relationships are subjective in terms of their composition, there are things within relationships that are, in fact, objective, one example being boundaries.
When I say boundaries are objective, I’m not trying to suggest that all boundaries amongst couples are identical. What I am suggesting is that boundaries are objective in a symbolic sense; they are there for a reason, and they are not intended to be challenged or altered.
I think there are a lot of folks out there in romantic relationships that believe boundaries set by their partner can be argued or even discarded, but this simply isn’t the case. If a boundary is established, it is done so with purpose. It is not intended to be disrespected, diminished, or manipulated; it is a representation of a persons limits, and trying to force someone into a situation in which they are uncomfortable ain’t okay. It is demeaning, uncalled for, and not acceptable.
People don’t just wake up one day and randomly decide to make a boundary pertaining to a specific situation for no reason. Boundaries often exist as a means of protection for the person who established them, so trying to coerce someone into changing their opinion regarding a boundary isn’t right, especially if it is done for personal gain.
We all have limitations and boundaries in all facets of life whether we acknowledge them consciously or not. They certainly exist in relationships, and for good reason. If you’re not able to respect your partners boundaries, there is a good chance the relationship will not work, and further, you may want to do some self-reflection and reevaluation to determine why it is you have an issue with someone else’s boundaries.
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