This past weekend was a busy one. Friday was my cousin’s wedding; Saturday, my team had our first rugby playoff game; Sunday, I attended a bridal shower. I realize for some that this might be a very average weekend, and if that is the case, bless you and your social battery. For myself, having three … More Understanding the goodness of lifetime friendships
I recently saw an Instagram reel that broke my heart. In the video, a woman is describing her struggles with general socializing with others; she explains how for most of her life she has been told she is annoying, despite her best efforts not to be, and how when she tries her damnest to justify … More Stop trying to explain yourself to people who don’t matter
I like to think of myself as a relatively pleasant person, although I will happily admit that this varies depending on the day. I try my best to be kind to others whenever possible, and as wonderful as being friendly is, it definitely has its downsides. I can’t help but suspect that people who are … More The fine line between kindness and assertion
While a saddening realization, I would wager that just about each and every one of us could think of someone when asked if we know someone who fails to be treated how they should. Unfortunately, women tend to fit this description more often than men do. Furthermore, this sort of poor treatment most often occurs … More Know your worth
I won’t gatekeep the three remaining love languages from you today, as I said in yesterday’s post that today’s would list the other three languages of love. I will, however, make you wait a little longer, or, rather, I ask that you don’t skip ahead just to get to the goods. Prior to learning about … More Do you know your love language? (part two)
This past weekend, Blaine and I were finally able to get together with great friends of ours. We have made several attempts to formulate a plan and therefore execute said plan to hang out prior to this past weekend, but for a variety of different reasons, we had to keep postponing. Over dinner, we were … More The reality of navigating adult friendshipsÂ
Occasionally, I get the impression that being a good listener is a skill that is harder and harder to come by. I have my own speculations about the reasoning behind this lack of attentiveness in the context of listening, but I do believe social media and technology have been significant perpetrators. Considering how much time … More How well do you listen?
One of my closest friends has had a whirlwind of a summer, to say the least. Between switching jobs not once, not twice, but three times, and also packing up and moving to Toronto with very little notice, it is safe to say she is feeling a little overwhelmed, and understandably so. She encountered a … More Here is your sign to call, not text, your friends
The concept of combining friendship and business can be a controversial one, depending on who you ask. It’s a fickle verdict regarding the matter; there are folks who have had nothing but positive experiences in terms of mixing business and friendship, and there are others who might say they would never do it again. When … More The risks of mixing business and friendship
I’ve mentioned before in some of my blog posts that finding and further sustaining friendships in early adult years can be tricky. For a lot of us, once we enter our 20s and 30s, the friends we made when we were younger, for example, friends from high school, slowly begin to trickle off of the … More A moment of appreciation for timeless friendships
About a year ago, a couple of my good friends and I lost touch. There were multiple working components to the situation which complicated things when we initially lost contact, and over time, things became more obscure as a result of miscommunication and false narratives. Recently, I was able to reconnect with both of them, … More Finding freedom in confrontation
This past weekend, my fiancé and I attended a wedding for good friends of ours. The groom has been one of Blaine’s best friends since they were kiddos, and his now wife has also become a good friend of ours over the past few years. Blaine was a groomsman in this wedding (as he is … More The beauty of being yourself, unapologetically
Maintaining healthy, balanced friendships is a relatively tricky concept. If you disagree with me, consider yourself quite fortunate; for a majority of us, though, keeping up friendships isn’t always a walk in the park. Friendships, like relationships, require effort, time, commitment and sacrifice, and at times, staying on par with multiple friendships and friend groups … More The reality of friendships when you’re a young adult
Ahhhh, friendship. A conceptual relationship that can offer so much positivity, but also, unfortunately, negativity, depending on the quality of the bond. Friendship, while incredibly important to me in my own life, is something I haven’t had tremendous luck with. I’ve had a few people in my life that I believed to be good friends … More Here’s why having good friends in your 20s is so important
Not too long ago a good friend of mine reached out to chat with me about a recent breakup she is going through. I was touched she thought of me to lean on and potentially offer her some advice pertaining to the situation, although once she got into the nitty gritty details of how her … More Here’s why knowing ourselves is so, so important
When it comes to relationships of any sort, the aspect of investing and reciprocating effort is a vital one. It is difficult for a relationship to bloom and grow when effort is only being exerted from one half of the two people involved, and eventually, efforts are eradicated as a result of frustration. I am … More The significance of knowing when to move on
Relationships are something a majority of us are affiliated with. Because there are so many forms of relationships, for example, romantic, familial, and friendship (to name a few), we don’t always dedicate a tremendous level of consciousness to the fact that relationships, in all forms, are subjective and personal. Everyone experiences relationships differently, and ultimately, … More Why do we make other people’s relationships our business?
Friendship is a concept I sincerely hope all of us have been privy enough to experience at some point in our lives. It is a wonderful thing to be great friends with people who are important to us, and even more gratifying is having friendships that have been in existence for an extended period of … More Figuring out failed friendships
My family and I have become great friends with some neighbors that moved into our area a few years ago. Over time, we have gotten to know their family (they have two adorable boys), and in a way, they’ve sort of become a part of our own family. This neighbor stopped in to see me … More The beauty of judgement-free conversation
As you may have guessed from the title, the topic of today’s post is how to deal with people who don’t like you. Personally, I find it a lot easier to deal with people I don’t like, rather than deal with people who don’t like me. If I don’t like someone, I don’t necessarily have … More Dealing with people who don’t like you
A couple of nights ago, I spoke on the phone with a good friend of mine from high school. I haven’t seen or spoken to her for quite some time because we’re both busy, so we agreed a phone call was needed. We chatted for just about an hour on the phone about all sorts … More Genuine Friendships
I have composed a handful of blogs discussing elements of friendships, and over the course of my life, I feel as though I have come to a concrete understanding of what makes a good friendship, and consequently, what makes a poor friendship. Healthy and beneficial friendships require commitment, dedication, effort, understanding, patience, give, and a … More It’s Time to Say Goodbye to One-Sided Friendships
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